• Lisa


I’m done with mansplaining. For those unfamiliar with the term: "it is a verb meaning (of a man) explain (something) to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing."

It’s not personal against any one male that I know and/or love but I’m just done with it. We are living with a huge shift in the perspective of racial, gender and socioeconomic traditions. Mansplaining has gotta go. I look around at all the young women, a new generation, who have been raised to be aware and to be the pilot of their own lives. And almost more importantly, I see the young men who have been raised by strong women, who can truly help to change the dynamic.

My generation and the ones prior weren’t raised with quite that lookout. We were told secretly by the older women in our life that even though we may be right we should to keep it to ourselves and let the men think they know best. Plant the idea for your father or husband and let him think he came up with the plan. Then praise his wonderful thoughts and suggestions- that's how we were told to get what we want.  And you know where that got us? We feel angry. Unheard. Resentful. Not very “pretty” or positive emotions. I think we are ALL entitled to our opinion and to be listened to with respect. Sometimes I’m not great at that either and it’s something I’m working on. Because if I want to be listened to and taken seriously by someone then I should do the same.

I think it’s time for us to follow the next generations. We need to fully claim our own perspective and power and be comfortable in doing so. It’s a new era for us all and the mute button is off. We are seen and we will be heard. And it’s up to each of us to support one another in doing so.